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THIRD BLOG: NOT EVERYTHING IS ABOUT YOU 🌸

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I USED TO BELIEVE THAT BIRTHDAYS ARE SPECIAL... It is the one day in every kid's life that they know they'll be happy, or at least, expect to. And I thought, that no matter how old one grows up, things would never change. I was wrong, of course. Two decades later, I am finally let down. For the first time, nothing was special about my birthday. Everyone treated it like it was every other day—normal. We go out to eat, hang out with loved ones, the end. I began thinking... is this how birthdays are supposed to feel like? Have they always felt purposeless?   And like every day, I was told what to do—how to dress, what to eat, where to go, reminding me that I've been nothing but a burden to the family, how to act, what to say, and more. Nothing's changed. I don't get to make the rules on my birthday. I'm not happy. Thinking that things will change is mostly a fool's dream. Whether you're as young as 6 years old or as old at 23, some things never change. Like...
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SECOND BLOG: NOT EVERYONE WILL MAKE YOU HAPPY 💔

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  I USED TO THINK THAT I WILL BE HAPPY... The truth is... I don't think I ever will be. I live with my parents. Turning 23, a lot of people from Western households might think that it's not normal. But it is. And as a person who still lives with their family, I understand now why people seek independence. Being constantly let down because you are just a child who doesn't know any better, a parent will always use the excuse: "You're my son/daughter. Of course, I just want what's best for you. Who do you think will this benefit me? No! It's you!" However, that's not a good enough excuse anymore. And while I want to be a good daughter, I can't help feeling I am no longer my own person. In fact, there are times that I realize I have learned to depend on my mother than seek solutions on how to do things myself. In simple terms, I wasn't capable of making my own decisions . I couldn't live without the instruction of my mother. I couldn't ...
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FIRST BLOG: NOT EVERYTHING IS ABOUT LOVE ❤️

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I USED TO THINK I WOULD NEVER FALL IN LOVE... With all the heartaches, heartbreaks, ice cream, and words exchanged, I thought I would finally experience falling in love. But even with the many exes, flings, and possibly hook-ups, nothing came close to the feeling. I think a part of me thought it just wasn't meant to be. Maybe, I wasn't destined to get married and bear my own child. Crush after crush, boyfriend after boyfriend, I still look for love—even in the smallest and absurd spaces. I tried online dating, face-to-face dating, flirting, crushing hard on someone... but in the end, they were all a dead end. As a woman, it was hard to find a decent man who wasn't thinking about sex, who loved my every being and wanted to know about me, who took care of me and wouldn't bother asking me for money because he had no financial problems! One way or another, I knew men weren't interested in dating a woman like me who: (1) looked young enough to be in elementary, (2) trapp...
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